Valentine’s Day is coming up in a week. Normally I post homeschool learning and ministry ideas for families before this special holiday, but this year my Valentine’s post is not going to be about homeschooling at all.
This year, I am reminded that there is a relationship we moms… especially we homeschool moms…are all too likely to put on the back burner.
When you are juggling a baby, chasing a toddler, grading an essay and answering an algebra problem, your husband is not exactly on the forefront of your mind, right?
I sure could be better at this… maybe you could be, too?
I know this doesn’t apply to everyone; you may be single.
But if you are not….you might have noticed that it. is. so. easy. to. put. our. kids first. Sometimes they have to be first, obviously… but there should be regular times when we intentionally, mindfully do things to let our husbands know that we haven’t forgotten about them! Do you agree?
Five Simple Ways to Bless Your Husband—and not Just on Valentine’s Day
1. Spend intentional, stop-everything-else-and-look-at-him-while-he-is-talking-time every day. We are exceptional at kissing ouchies, listening to stumbling new readers and chattering toddlers. We sometimes even do an admirable job of keeping the house relatively germ-free, pulling off regular meals and keeping the clothes clean. But we are so busy that we seldom just stop. listen. and look, giving our husbands our undivided attention.
2. You’ve read a thousand times about how important it is to have a regular “date night.” You may not be able to pull this off weekly, but why not find another couple with small kids and trade babysitting every other week? Your kids will have big fun and you will get some much needed, regular time alone with your spouse. (And please work at talking about something else other than the kids!)
3. Study your husband like you do your kids. After teaching them all day, you know how they like to learn, what they get excited about, and how to bless them.
Hearken back to your dating days and remember what has been lost in light of the dirty diapers, messy kitchens and a plethora of homeschool projects. Seek ways to bless your husband, even if it is just an unexpected back rub at the end of a long day.
4. Use your talent or hobby to bless your husband on Valentine’s Day.Crafty? Make him a card or put together a basket of special food or hobby treats. Musical? Write him a song or cover another song and make him a recording. Or make a playlist of “your” music. Artistic? Paint him a picture. Writer? Write him a poem or love note.
5. Bite the bullet: plan and do something HE likes to do. You get extra points for this if he knows it is not your favorite activity. Watch the game, go on a hike, play golf, go fishing, play paintball, help him do yard work or share in a needed home repair.
Believe me when I say that your family will all benefit by you mindfully honoring your husband by conserving time and attention for him.
Now tell me, does this strike a chord with you? Could you do better at investing in your relationship with your husband? Are you going to do anything special for him on Valentine’s Day?
Please tell me in the comments!