Impatience or Grace?

March 3rd, 2015

extending grace to kids

“Mom, will you play a game with me?”

I can’t believe that after hounding reminding this child several times that morning to finish his math and fighting “the writing wars” this afternoon, he now wanted to play a game with me.

My insides were screaming, “NO, I really DON’T want to!”

But of course, I murmured a lack-luster “Sure.”

All I could think about was how early I had woken up to get organized for the day. How patient I had been when I felt like yelling.  How messy the house was and how I still had no idea what I was making for dinner.

His perspective, of course, was entirely different.

And, sadly, it took me WAY too long to figure out his perspective.

It wasn’t a coincidence that this child wanted to play a game with me after a frustrating school day.

This child needed the assurance he was still loved.

 Just like I do, regularly,  from my Heavenly Father.

Even though he knew he had fooled around instead of getting his math done. Even though he had been playing in his room instead of doing his copy work

He needed a hug and some focused attention, without the pressure of “school.”

He needed me to be “mom” for a while, instead of “teacher.”

As I looked into that unsure face, I finally got it. Hugging him close, I asked, “What would you like to play?”

“How about Monopoly?” he squealed.

“We can start it and play until time to fix dinner, but we will have to finish it later.”

“Mom, I am sorry I played today instead of working on school.”

Giving unexpected grace prompted a repentant heart.

Lord, please help me to be quicker to extend grace and less impatient with my children.

The light in his eyes and relieved smile on his face gave me a little spring in my step that evening.

Giving grace instead of the ‘expected’ reaction is an investment that will pay off great dividends.

And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. Gal.6:9

How is your challenging learner doing this week?

How might extending him or her unexpected grace help?

Five Simple Ways to Say Happy Valentine's Day

Valentine’s Day is coming up in a week. Normally I post homeschool learning and ministry ideas for families before this special holiday, but this year my Valentine’s post is not going to be about homeschooling at all.

This year, I am reminded that there is a relationship we moms… especially we homeschool moms…are all too likely to put on the back burner.

When you are juggling a baby, chasing a toddler, grading an essay and answering an algebra problem, your husband is not exactly on the forefront of your mind, right?

I sure could be better at this… maybe you could be, too?

I know this doesn’t apply to everyone; you may be single.

But if you are not….you might have noticed that it. is. so. easy. to. put.  our.  kids first.  Sometimes they have to be first, obviously… but there should be regular times when we intentionally, mindfully do things to let our husbands know that we haven’t forgotten about them!  Do you agree?

Five Simple Ways to Bless Your Husband—and not Just on Valentine’s Day

1. Spend intentional, stop-everything-else-and-look-at-him-while-he-is-talking-time every day. We are exceptional at kissing ouchies, listening to stumbling new readers and chattering toddlers. We sometimes even do an admirable job of keeping the house relatively germ-free, pulling off regular meals and keeping the clothes clean. But we are so busy that we seldom just stop. listen. and look, giving our husbands our undivided attention.

2. You’ve read a thousand times about how important it is to have a regular “date night.” You may not be able to pull this off weekly, but why not find another couple with small kids and trade babysitting every other week? Your kids will have big fun and you will get some much needed, regular time alone with your spouse. (And  please work at talking about something else other than the kids!)

3. Study your husband like you do your kids. After teaching them all day, you know how they like to learn, what they get excited about, and how to bless them.

Hearken back to your dating days and remember what has been lost in light of the dirty diapers, messy kitchens and a plethora of homeschool projects. Seek ways to bless your husband, even if it is just an unexpected back rub at the end of a long day.

4. Use your talent or hobby to bless your husband on Valentine’s Day.Crafty? Make him a card or put together a basket of special food or hobby treats.  Musical? Write him a song or cover another song and make him a recording. Or make a playlist of “your” music.  Artistic? Paint him a picture. Writer? Write him a poem or love note.

5. Bite the bullet: plan and do something HE likes to do. You get extra points for this if he knows it is not your favorite activity. Watch the game, go on a hike, play golf, go fishing, play paintball, help him do yard work or share in a needed home repair.

Believe me when I say that your family will all benefit by you mindfully honoring your husband by conserving time and attention for him.

Now tell me, does this strike a chord with you? Could you do better at investing in your relationship with your husband?  Are you going to do anything special for him on Valentine’s Day?

Please tell me in the comments!

Are you Ready?

January 7th, 2015
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Ready to begin the new semester?

The Christmas tree came down yesterday. I am always a little sorry to see it go. (And why is it that Christmas decorations go up so much more quickly than they come down?)

Today January, 2015 is now a week old! Are you ready for the new year?

I would like to say that by January 1st I had thoroughly reviewed 2014 and proactively set goals for 2015.  And that I was barreling down on those goals already.

But this year I want to hear from you, first.

Homeschooling is the most demanding job I have ever had. And now that our homeschooled-through-high school children are through college/graduate school, I want to help YOU.

Where do you feel most ill equipped to do the job you have been called to do? What do you wake up at night worrying about? Where do you need insight, ideas and support? What aspect of homeschooling do you want to learn more about?

Here is your chance to tell me! Please take a few minutes and fill out my 10 question survey, if you have not already done so.  We’ll thank you with a $10 off coupon* for any item in our online store. (Don’t forget to leave your email address at the end of the survey so we can send your coupon code.)
Speak your mind! It won’t take long, and hopefully it will make your year a little easier.

 

In Christ,

Dana Wilson at Train up a Child Publishing

 

 

Dana Wilson

Train up a Child Publishing, LLC
formerly Epi Kardia
trainupachildpub.com
dana@trainupachildpub.com
 

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Unto us a Child is Born!

December 10th, 2014
Child_is_bornTraditional school is winding down in favor of Advent readings, baking Christmas cookies, caroling for neighbors, wrapping presents and getting ready for travel or company!  Yay!
Below are ideas for fun things to do with kids during these busy days as well as some resources for you. From keeping Christ in Christmas to what to tell your kids about Santa to ideas for healthy holiday hors d’oeuvres… if you are like me, you could use the help! :-)
Also, here is a 10 question survey where you can give us input what you need to see in our blog posts this coming year, thoughts on our ordering process and our project priorities in 2015. We REALLY covet your input and will thank the first 100 respondents by emailing them a $10 coupon after we receive your completed surveys!
Thank you for taking a few minutes to help us out!
Praying you have a blessed and Merry Christmas as you focus on JESUS!

Christmas Fun for Kids

  • Talk about how God  gave us the first Gift — the gift of His only Son — and how that gift can be multiplied as we give that gift to others by telling them about Him. Then play this Christmas word game.

Listen to Online Christmas Music

 

 

Keeping Christ in Christmas

 

Our Favorite Christmas Books

 

Yummy Christmas Food

 

 

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Add more literature-based learning to your homeschool curriculum!Do you remember crying as you read Old Yeller as a child? Or cheering as you read the part in Hans Brinker or the Silver Skates where his father finally…oops! I almost gave it away!

One of the easiest things you could do today to make your homeschooling more fun and effective this year is have your children read and/or listen to more high quality literature.

Literature-Based Learning with Living Books

Everybody knows that literature is a key component to education, whether you education using Charlotte Mason methods or not.

Especially “living books” — books written by authors with a passion for their subject, full of ideas ready to capture the imaginations of their readers.

But have you ever thought about why literature is so essential?

 

  • A great book provides pleasure to listeners and readers, sparks imaginations and develops thinking skills.
  • Literature provides a language model for those who hear and read it, paving the way for better writing in future years.
  • Reading and listening to living books build experiences in young readers.
  • Literature supports all areas of your language arts curriculum.
  • By reading about other’s problems, literature helps children deal with their own.
  • Reading about other races and cultures helps readers value others who are different from them.
  • Living books may easily be used to integrate subjects.
  • Literature helps us see the world more broadly and not just centered on ourselves.
  • Excellent literature will be enjoyed by several ages at the same time, making reading aloud an activity the family can enjoy together.
  • Reading excellent literature can teach many moral lessons and develop the character of readers and listeners.

 

Homeschool families have a one-of-a-kind opportunity to incorporate more literature into their curriculum, or even better, to use literature alone to educate their children.

Even if you aren’t yet ready to ditch your textbooks in favor of total learning using real books, add more literature into your homeschooling day! Your kids will thank you!

These are some of our favorites:

 

Literature for all ages

The Bronze Bow is the exciting story of an eighteen year old boy at the time of Christ who burns with hatred after losing his father. As he travels down the road to revenge against the Romans occupying Israel, he comes to learn that death was not his enemy. He begins to see that the exchange of hatred for love can be powerful…

 

 

Johnny Tremain is a somewhat arrogant young man who is a highly skilled silversmith in Boston just before the American Revolution. However, one day he has a tragic accident and is unable to continue his work. Finding a new occupation leads Johnny to rub shoulders with the men of the Revolution. As the story unfolds, Johnny becomes a major player in creating a new America, and learns quite a bit about humility in the process.

 

Amos Fortune is a compelling story of a fifteen year old boy who is captured, transported to America and sold as a slave. He dreams of freedom yet maintains his courage and his integrity. After 45 years of being a slave he finally begins to see his hopes revealed. The character and humility of this great man will inspire your children This is one of our family’s favorites! So inspiring!

 

Hittite Warrior tells the tale of Uriah, a Hittite boy living during the Old Testament Judges. He is on a mission after his family is killed by the Greeks. This book is full of history, action, war, and suspense. As you read you become immersed in the life of this young warrior as he comes to understand peace and forgiveness.

 

 

 

Literature for high school

Quo Vadis, which translates “Where are you going?” is set after the death of Christ, during the horrific reign of the Roman emperor Nero. Quo Vadis submerges the reader into Roman culture with its politics and intense persecution of the early church. This is a story of redemption and transformation; parts of it are based on the writings of Tacitus, a Roman senator (and therefore primary source) for this time period. don’t miss it!

 

 

Although Safely Home is fiction, it realistically portrays the persecution of Christians in China. An American business man travels to China to visit his former Chinese college roommate who is practicing Christianity. The reader comes to understand the heritage of the Chinese and appreciate their strength and courage as they live out their faith. The author forces the reader to know what it means to “take up your cross daily” as the story moves the American to a slow path of returning to his faith. One of my favorites!

 

Imagine a day without textbooks or workbooks! If YOU and your children are weary of multiple handouts and worksheets, then explore literature-based learning!

Do you have family favorites other than those I have mentioned? Please share in the comments!